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i hope you're doing alright. i had a friend who had basically the same thing happen to her. i'm sure everything will work itself out with your family because they will always love you no matter what. and don't worry, you have a whole group of people here who are supporting you and are here to talk whenever you need it.
thanks guys u have no idea how much that means. i have to admit...i feel so terrible right now. i want to give up. naturally ur all probly wondering wat happened but r too nice to ask (thanks for that):
so i was at church with my family. i was sitting with my youth group and started to feel rly sick. i ended up throwing up after running out in the middle of the service. the friend i told you about came to check on me. she stayed with me when i was sick and held me when i cried for the rest of the service. thats when i realized i was in over my head and had to tell my parents. i figured they'd be supportive...i was wrong.
my sisters looked disgusted as my mom looked at me through the rearview mirror. "its obvious u cant handle something like this...ur only a child. i dont know what to do" after that i looked at my dad. he has always been my biggest fan, cheering me on in everything i do. im daddy's little girl and i needed him to rescue me. he turned away when we made eye contact and said " we expected so much more from you muffin"(my nickname) at that moment i literally felt my heart break in two.
it hurts so bad. plz..someone talk to me.
I will be back on later if you'd like to talk.
I'm sorry they aren't being supportive, although I'm sure this was just a shock to them. I would give them time to be more supportive.
I am so, so sorry Sarah. I know it hurts. Just know that you will have shoulders to cry on if you need them. If you want to vent, you want to scream, you want to cry as hard as you can, we're gonna be there for you. Sorry to be rather blunt, but are you terminating? I acknowledge that you come from a very religious family but I'm not sure it's healthy to go through with it.
thanks guys...they still havent tlked to me...wat is up with this???? im there daughter for crying outloud...i am so angry and so frustrated i want to die! and aprilblue no...i wont be terminating. i just cldnt do it, i wish i cld...but i can't. i wldnt be able to live with myself. thanks for being so supportive, u guys r the only ones. i've never felt so lonely...my family just walks around like i'm not even there!!!!
So... are you going to go to school while this is progressing? I'm guessing you're adopting it out.How do you feel? Funny?
What did they say when you told them? And if your sister really loves and cares about you she will forgive you.
Sorry about the last post I didn't read the second page. Don't worry Sarah your family will come around, they know they have to dicuss your future with you. Have they mentioned anything about the baby?
ugh...life stinks. and yeah aprilblue, i'll be putting the baby up for adoption. my family is talking to me, but only when necesarry. church was today and EXTREMELY awkward...i think everyone knows, and just no one is saying it. it was pretty terrible. i have a dr.'s apt. tuesday and my mom is going to take me...which stinks. i'd rather go with the friend, but o well...atleast she wants to be involved in SOME way. anyone feel like listening to me grumble about morning sickness?? sigh...i feel so pitiful :(
I understand the coming from a faith thing.
There's a young teenage mom at our church who got pregnant. She kept it a secret until the baby was born, and then said, 'mom, I had a kid.'
Now, everybody loves Sammy and she's a joy to our lives. Aborting her would have been horrible.
If you're family is as strong in your faith as you say they are, then they'd probably rather save the baby and be disappointed in you than kill him/her off.
I recommend going to planned parent hood or picking up the book Doormat by Kelly McWilliams.
(it's about a girl who goes through the same thing and what she does.) Really short book.
I really hope you keep the baby, and you need to tell someone, because if you don't, you could die.
Your parents will understand.
Ugh. Parents can be so... if you need to vent about anything I'm here (parents, morning sickness, etc).
Another question, does the father know? I know you weren't ever "together" or anything.
I'm sorry they aren't being as supportive as they should be. Your baby will thank you in the future for giving it life and a chance to live. Your family may be mad at you, disappointed in you, but they'll come around. I wish I could talk to you one-on-one, but I can't.. and giving out email addresses here is forbidden (I think), so I can't really discuss in full detail all the information and things I wish I could.. but.. keep us posted, and let us continue to know how things are going.
well..i want to vent so badly, then i get on here and totally blank!! arg...wat i rly need is someone i can txt through out the day or watever when i just want to die (which is becoming a normal emotion for me) but idk how i cld give one of u my # or if ud even wanna respond...any ideas? and the morning sickness is sooo terrible. it kps me up most of the night..its not morning sickness..its all the time sickness, idk how im gona do this for 7 more months, and there's only so much i feel comfortable posting for the whole world to see if they want...sigh...is there anyway i cld txt someone? probly not...
I would, but I'm not allowed. I'm sorry. I'm sure everything will work out okay. As for the morning sickness, it may go away as you get farther along?
Hey Sarah. I'm sorry to hear that life sucks eggs. Blah.
Btw, I'm Sarah too. You're a little older than me but still.
If you just wanna spaz out on the keys and stuff I totally get it :) Sometimes it helps to pound on something.
Are you like in pain? Sorry if I sound insensitive, hope the sickness goes away. Blah.Do any of your friends know? And does this happen alot at your school?
yeah...it does suck, and its ok Jandee. hopefully the morning sickness goes away, but some ppl do have it the whole way through the whole nine months.
Aprilblue-yea i am in pain, and i've read that its only gona get worse. no none of my friends know, and no it doesn't happen at my school. like ever. i go to a private christain school. it's pretty snobby if i'm being honest. full of the richest and preppiest..u kno the type i'm tlking bout?
ugh...as for the banging on the keys..don't mind if i do that!UUUUUUUGGGGHHHH!!!!!!! I HATE THIS I HATE EVERYTHING!!!!! I HATE THE FATHER FOR DOING THIS TO ME!!! I HATE NOONE FOR UNDERSTANDING!!!! I HATE HOW DRASTICALLY LIFE CAN CHANGE AND HOW SOMEONE WHO WENT FROM THE VERY TOP CAN END UP ON THE BOTTOM!!!! UGGGGHHH!!! WHY ME?????
I’m sorry all of this happened to you Sarah M. I am 16 years old and I’m 5 months pregnant. The first few months were the absolute worst for me with breaking the news to loved ones and of course the awful morning/ all day sickness (which does ease up whether you like to believe it or not). My family also is strong in faith and attends church very regularly. The news broke my parent’s hearts and my siblings freaked out but they were and still are very supportive. The father of my child is my boyfriend though but he does go off to college in August. I don’t mean to go on about my life but I want you to know that you are not alone and there are people in this world that want to help you. Just trust in God and he will get you through this like he is doing for me. If you have any questions or just need someone to talk to, I understand what you are going through and am gladly willing to talk.
it kps showing up that i have new replies on here but i can't find them..
Oh blah that's happened to me.
Are you gonna go to school while you're expecting?
Ouch. Bad pain?How is your mother? Is your family talking to you?