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I need some advice. i know i am depressed. i am currently on medication for my depression, and i do not feel that it is working. I do harm myself by cutting my legs and stomach. I even punch myself. This has been going on for quite a while now and i have even gone to a psychiatric ward for it. I am afraid to tell anyone and i do not know what to do about it.
I guess i am asking for help. Does anyone have any advice for me. Please do not say the obvious because i am sure i have already realized all of it. Does anyone have any coping skills i could try or anything? i am open to all options.
I am not proud of what i am doing. i would like to stop, that is why i am seeking advice from people who might have gone through the same thing.
i went through the same thing.. and im falling back into it, because i lost my baby....
but i use thing thing called the butterlfy project. its where when ever you feel the need to cut you draw a butterfly somewhere on your body and put a loved ones name underneath the butterfly.... now you cant wash it off you have to let it fade naturally, and if you cut while you have a butterfly on your bady you have killed butterfly and the trust of that person... it wors wonders for me <3 you should try it, it wont worl unless you belive the butterlies are real
I have tried that before but i never really got into it; it never seemed to work out. Do you by anychance have anything elses that i might be able to try?
when ever you get the urge to cut, take ten minutes to thinkk about what you are doing, if you can last ten minuntes, go up in 5 minute lots untill the urge is gone, and try t do something you love, so i love to cook, and paint and listen to msic so i do those things when im in the mood for cutting and it takes my mind off things ^_^
I have a lot of advice on this sort of thing. I'll see if I can find one of my old posts because I feel that did a good job of explaining things.
As for the meds, they're only designed to help to a degree. I'm assuming yours is a serotonin drug. Essentially it's designed to balance out the levels of serotonin in your brain because studies have foudn that people with depression often have low levels of this. The problem is they don't really know why. They don't know if it's the serotonin loss that causes the depression or the depression that causes the serotonin loss. I'm of the mind that it's the latter, but that's just a theory that I have. Anyway so this drug is supposed to level things out, right. But if it's actually your thought processes, and bevahours leading to the emotional disturbance, leading to the serotonin loss, then that's still going to keep happeneing despite the meds, just to a lesser degree.
In addition to this, there's a second chemical in the brain called noradrenaline (a product of dopamine) that also has an effect. This is not going to be changed by the meds (provided they are serotonin reuptak inhibitors).
The best evidence for depression recovery/management out there is for combined therapy and medication. Meds on their own tend to be a bit hit and miss, and therapy on it's own can be the same.
I'm biased against depression meds, so it doesn't suit my personal preference, and I'm very for therapy. So, if my posts come accross like that try not to be too swayed by the bias. Make your own choices on what you think is right for you. The thing I really like about therapy is that it actually addresses the thought processes and behaviours behind the depression. It works at trying to help you change habits and become more funtional. The meds mask symptoms. But they do also lessen the extent of emotional pain so that it's easier to make changes and become healtheir, so I get why they are used, and how they are helpful.
Okay, going to find that other post (the one about self-harm strategies) now and repost it here.
"Stopping cutting is a complex process, despite pretty much all the advice being really simplistic. It's one of those easy to say, hard to do kind of situations. Once you manage to convince youself that you want to stop and that it's best for you, you've really got the process started. I can't stress enough how important this is. The next big factor is will power. Sticking to the idea that you should stop, no matter how hard it gets. It's hard, but whether you believe you can do it or not, you can. Anyone can obstain from self inflicted injury. It may hurt like he.ll sometimes, but you are capable of it.
The rest, it tends toward personal preference. How you go about dealing with the feeling of addiciton as you withdraw from it should be tailored to what would suit you best. I'd encourage you to keep thinking about the reasons why you want to stop. Group them together and use them as a shield. Have them protect you from giving in. Some good distraction techniques can work well too, but I should warn you that whilst these can be helpful, they are temporary and superficial. They'll get you away from thinking too much about cutting while they're available, but when you're not in a position to undertake one of these activities you'll be more vulnerable. That's why all that will power and self talk (on why you want to stop) is so important. That said, distraction methods can be anything that keeps your mind off of cutting. It could be something you find enjoyable, interesting, intellectually stimulating, tiring, etc. Some examples: reading, listening to music (preferably not anything that makes you feel upset), exercising, learning about something new (or something that you have an interest in), talking to a friend (about whatever you want, it doesn't have to be about how you feel).
When I combined the core methods (remembering my reasons for stopping and sticking to those beliefs no matter what), with distractions when necessary, I found a good method for stopping self harm. I was still depressed and still struggling over the time that I quit, and it was not until more than a year after the last time that I cut that I really felt confident that I would never cut again (I was still depressed at this point too).
It's a difficult process and takes a lot of time. You may still feel like cutting for a long time after stopping. It may still be your default thought for coping with emotional pain. The trick is to under no circumstances give in. Commit yourself to that and you'll get there. It's worth it. Even when I still felt like cutting, I knew I'd made the right choice and I knew my life was easier because of it. Cutting teaches destructive methods of dealing with pain. Once you remove it from the equation, you start to learn better ways of dealing with that emotion.
I've talked a lot on this subject, mostly about what worked for me. As I said before, you may have to change things around a little so that it works best for you. We are different people, and so what suits you may not have suited me and vice versa."
I don't know how much of a help i can be since I can't stop but things that help me is talking to someone and getting accountability. Get someone that you can contact before you hurt yourself. Also reading the bible and praying are good alternatives (if you are a Christian). I do it in anger or when i am down. Also stay around someone, everytime you get the urge or feel like your are in a position that will give you the urge to si. Don't be by yourself. And be truly ready to change. THats what I try anyway.
I suggest that if the urge feels too strong and Jade's idea doesn't work for you, then you should try getting ice and holding it in your hand. The physical sensation is supposed to stop the urge by distraction.
Maybe go outside and take a walk. If you need to, bring an iPod and listen to music (but music isn't always the best thing), and don't take your harming materials if you can help it. Stay out as long as it takes to go away. If you have urges to hit yourself while walking, run for a little bit too.
Also if you want you can join the group in the personal opinions section called cutting/scratching and talk there. There are some recovering cutters/harmers along in different places in recovery in that group and we share struggles and celebrations and such and it helps people sometimes.
thank you i apppreciate the advice. i will try whatever it takes. i will look for that forum and check it out sometime.
Thank you so much. im sure not a lot of people really care and i am glad you have actually took the time to post. i will deffinately try those methods. i am actually considering getting professional help for this because i think it has gotten worse. i need to be able to do it by meslf as well so i will try everything everone has posted. again thank you so much for taking time to try and help.
What I do when I get urges is I think of my friends, and how me cutting hurts them. Sometimes I write, sometimes I punch a wall. When you want to cut, picture your best(non-cutting) friend standing there, watching you do this. Talk to someone. Take a walk. Put ice wherre you want to cut. Just breathe. Those are some of my coping tips, hope it helps. Remeber, someone loves you!