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Ok, so, I am a cutter. The other day, that piece of information was told to an adult by a bunch of my friends. I myself can not stand talking to adults. But now my parents and my teacher know. I have never and will never be able to talk to my parents, but my teacher said that I can get a guidance counselor and that she will be my guidance counselor type person until we can find an actual counselor.
So I guess I'm really trying to ask two questions here. One, are guidance counselors good or evil? Can they help, or are they just a pain in the as.s (pardon my language.) And also, any advice on talking to adults? Cuz I know it will help me in the long run, but I dont know how to.
im a guy but ive got good tips on this cause i tried committing suicide 3x's in 10th. guidance counselors can be helpful but sometimes theyre difficult. whatever you do, don't tell them everything cause they'll put you in an insanity ward. (trust me, i experienced it. NOOOOT FUN) as far as talking to them, just talk like you were talking to an old friend
Evil, in my opinion
No wit, goood
no wait, they try to fix you... without your permission, I'm a cutter too, and I have other problems... EVIL
No... they help you for the better, Goldie you're mean for being mean to your counselor...
DId I mention I think I'm bipolar
Thanks for the advice Riptide. And Goldie....well....are you ok?
I've only ever been to my own personal psychiatrist (privately and state-ordered) and he's been great, I guess, but I can't judge the contrats between that atmosphere and a school guidance counsellor. Although being assigned one by the government and the school are much the same, so I'm not sure. Make sure they're qualified first, I guess, but their aim is to help so let them!
Wow. I'm sorry. I had chocolate before posting that. (I'm Goldie)
I sincerily thing that a guidence counselor, or anyone else who acts to give you guidance can be a savior. I was in a rut when I posted that, and I don't cut anymore because my friends and family pulled me out. I thank the Lord for that every day. So, truthfully, without chocolate in my system guidance counsellors could save your life. No matter how much you rely on that next high, or that binge, or the pain that comes from cutting, the real help comes fom friends, not wallowing in your own pity.
I don't know about cutting, but for me guidance counselors have always been he.ll. My problem is with bullying, and for that I find them good for nothing. They don't get it, first of all. It feels like they're trying to patronize me. Second, they're very... passive. Sharing I-statements with the bully doesn't do anything, and neither does forgetting their detention. So, from my (many) experiences, school counselors usually suck, and are totally EVIL!!!
I dont believe in evil, so that's out of the argument for me. I think it will depend on the person, you might get a good one, you might not.
We do not have guidance counsillers in my country, so I dont know much about them. However I know that your conversations with this person will be confidential unless they think you are in danger. This person is there for you, and they are probablly used to people in situwations similar to yours.
If i were you, I would at least try talking to them, although ultimatly it is your own dessision.
They are good, but they are pains sometimes. My old one was amazing and nice, but my new one is just so annoying. I've learnt to avoid her all together.