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Do you think its okay to have a friend with benefits... We can't date because of my parents and we like each other so he talked me into being friends with benefits...
You do realize what he means by that, right?
Friends with benefits is more dangerous than it sounds!! Trust me!
It basically means that you have feelings for each other as just friends, but you're desperate for physical needs to be met. So you fool around with each other until a relationship comes along that provides the feelings and the physical needs.
Sometimes friends with benefits ends up with one person falling for the other person and the other person taking advantage of it.
Friends with benefits, honestly, is a terrible idea!
That's all I have to say (:
*applauds in agreement*
From personal experience, friends with benefits does not end well...
When u say "Friends with Benefits" do u mean actually mean fooling around together just to meet ur personal physical needs for s.ex? Cuz, that doesn't sound good to me. It leaves a girl without self-respect, and ends badly.
Rumors will start about you, first of all. Ever been called a sl.ut or w.ho.re? It's not fun when people say it seriously. Second, your friend will get bored and either A) go too far (if you even set boundaries...idk how you view that stuff) or B) leave you. Just trust me when I say it doesn't work. It's fun while it lasts, but you will get hurt.
Rumors will start about you, first of all. Secondly, your friend will get bored and either A) push things too far (if you even set boundaries...idk how you view that stuff.) or B) leave you. It may be fun in the beginning, but you're going to get hurt.
i think if you like each other its fine
Well over all we had set bounds and yes we both like each other but we cant date because of parental issues so it is more or so like hidden dating sorta... But after kissing him and so on a multiple times I felt as if we didn't have any umm "chemistry" and he was falling hard for me which I wasn't ready for so we both decided that it was best to end things although now I miss him sooooooo bad but we are both fine it seems
if its not ok with your rents i wouldnt do it. they dont like the boy for a reason and its probably a good. remember rents know more then us kids do. and if your sneaking around with this kid, your rents will find out. either someone will tell them or your will end up telling on yourself. sorry i've been through this so take it from me its not worth the trouble.
^so smart people do exist!^ yay for a long time I thought I was the only one. Friends with Benefits do not work, close friendships do however, for longing hearts that want to love for emotion's sake.
But if you're after the physical side, waiting for a proper relationship can't hurt you as bad as this 'friends with benefits' will.
i agree with Redneck-Women. if its not ok with your parents don't do it. i have a friend who's mother didn't totally agree with her bf and well... trust me when she broke it off she wouldn't talk about it with anyone for ages and it wasn't good. my advice: don't do it! you don't want to get hurt1