Teen Ink

Jun. 22, 2012 at 6:39 pm

First of all, I'm sorry that your relationship with her went bad. But secondly, was she your first girlfriend? Because the first relationships are usually the hardest to forget. I totally know how you feel, I've been through trying to foget my first boyfriend and its tough, but I've learned that if you're positive she won't take you back, even as friends, try to distance yourself for a while. Let everything cool down. Also don't talk about her much, just try not to bring it up. I know its hard, but also try not to think about her, the more you think/talk/dream about her the harder it is to move on. Also, its usually much easier to move on if you do move on, try hanging out with friends more, finding a new crush, or even a new girlfriend. Hope this helps, good luck!

Jun. 23, 2012 at 7:57 pm

Wow, this is hard i know especially when you still see them. .idk if this is the case with you. but it doesn't help to let yourself keep thinking about her, listening to sad songs, dreaming about her, or punishing yourself - if there's no possibility of reconciling, then you're not meant to be. and you must move on! it's so rough, but the pain will fade - even if it takes a long time.  it helps to just get it off your chest and talk about it. . . unless that makes it harder for you. i write poems when i'm emotional about this and it helps me alot with letting go. be honest about your feelings to yourself and in your writing, but get out and spend time with caring people too. just focus on your friendships, and theres no rush for a relationship. enjoy being single while you are. & let yourself heal. . hope this helps a bit at least  =)

Jun. 24, 2012 at 1:01 am

Honestly, the only thing to do at this point is realize that what you're stuck on is in the past. There are so many opportunities waiting for you in the future, just a little past this emotional obstacle.

I mean, that doesn't make it better, but it helps you kinda get an objective picture. And once you have perspective, you can determine more on the how.

What does make it better? Time. And I know you've already spent a lot of time on this, but more doesn't hurt.

What else helps? Friends. Surrounding yourself with positive people who you know geniunely care about you is probably one of the best things you can do. To know that there's someone there who cares about you and is there for you at any given time is the best thing you can have.

As long as I'm being honest, I might as well tell you that when you've suffered an emotional trauma like you have, the pain never really goes away. It fades but never goes away. Which is why you have to take it upon yourself to come to grips with the fact that the past is the past, and all you can do is look to the future.

Also, I know you. This isn't just about her. It's not as simple as a specific event leaving you with a specific negative emotion. It's a ripple effect. So much bad from one thing.

The world is a crazy place. It's filled with a lot of good and a lot of bad. I don't think it's fair for someone as incredible as you to let this get in the way yourself, though. Stuff happens. You are so much better. And I trust that you'll find a way to look past this and move on. You're just awesome.

And I'm getting to a point where I'm saying the same thing over and over, soooooooooo...

 

Oh, remember I'm here to talk. I had to delete my email (long story), but if you need something or just wanna talk, I can find you here.