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I have been best friends with a guys since we were five, and people teased us about dating all the time. Even after I moved across the country, people still asked him if we were going out, and they still do. Anyone who is in this situation can come and complain to me. I know how you feel, and if you want advice, I will be happy to give it.
Happening right now. I don't know what to do, because it seems like no matter what I do, people still bring him up around me, and ask where he is, if I'm treating him well, how is he, how long have we been dating, how did he ask me out, etc. and I've tried telling them that we r just friends, and they're just like 'sure, sure'. He says it doesn't bother him, but, I think he's been avioding me lately because of it. I don't want to lose our friendship over stupid stuff, but, it seems like that's exactly what's happening. so yeah, I don't know what to do. There r two things that truly annoy me, one, is that he actually did ask me out, but, as a "joke", and before I knew it was a joke, I considered it and began to feel something like attraction towards him. Two, he would make a horrible boyfriend, I believe. especially lately. Lately, he's never there for me, keeps letting me down, ignoring me when his friends are around, making me feel dumb, avioding me, hanging with other girls, not texting me and not replying to the texts I send, purposly looking the other way when he sees me in the hall, not showing up in the places we used to me, etc. I feel like the only time we can really talk, is when it's just us, and we haven't been able to do that because when we r alone, he makes an excuse to leave. I don't want to lose him, but, I'm so tired of holding out to him, and getting treated like shit in return. He hasn't always been like this, about three weeks ago, even tho the rumors were still flying we were good, and now I don't know what happened.
haha, sorry, but, this has been kept locked up for so long, and I just really needed to rant about how much it's driving me insane! Thanks for dealing with that :) i'll take any advice you can give.
It says there is a reply on here, but it's not showing up.... and the number says I have zero replies. At the same time, this shows that someone besides me replied. ARRGH!! ELECTRONIC DEVICES ARE CONFUSING!!!
I know what you mean! Me and this guy have recently become really good friends and we have a good relationship, but as friends, nothing more. And all I've heard is "Aww you guys look so cute together!" and "You guys should date". Its kinda awkward since we've just become besties this year. And its also kinda hard knowing how he feels, but I'm pretty sure its friendly, like how I feel about him. We give each other hugs in the halls at school, have a good time together, and really enjoy each others company, but it gets awkward when someone makes a comment like that. Even people from our youth group have mentioned it before. Guys and girls can be friends without having to date.
I totally understand and than peoplejust keep picking on you even after they know the truth and things get weird and awkward and thats when judging and gossip ruins relationships
Well, it's good to know there are people with the same situations as me. People have made comments like that to me and my friend for eight years now.
I have the issue times 5. I only have friends who are guys and every other day I am supposedly dating a different one. people think that I either really relly get around alot. or that i like girls. so either way I've had comments made about me since 3rd grade when I am now 16 and never have so much as had my first kiss. ugh i just hate people.
I can relate :P
Omg, this ironical. The thing was recently I was in youth theater play at my community center and I became really close with this guys and we spent a lot time alone back stage talking. Of course, we were accuse of being "an item". We even accuse, (by ironically a 11 year old) of going to second base because someone walk into the room "and I was siting and he was standing up". He has girlfriend. And I also have girlfriend, (yeah, I kinda gay) but no believe me. Oh, stereotypes. Then annoyingly, he occasionally flirt with me, because, guys must flirt with anyone they find mildly attractive, as long their not blood relative.
well right now you're probably wondering why a guy is resonding to this, aren't you?
well i have the oppisite problem, the majority of my friends are girls. i am not a feminine person, and i'm not a popular jock. actually the jocks very strongly dislike me. yes i'm in online school but last year i wasn't and i still go to the HS for one class. it's so annoying i'll just say hi to a girl and someone starts a rumor that i slept with her! or she's my gf! it's so annoying, just like morgan i haven't even had my first kiss yet. i haven't even held hands. and i also get accused of being a homo, and i'm am 100% straight. i just don't get it. but i think now i've got it figured out, they're jealous. and it's funny cause i only like one girl, and the rest i don't but they're still my freinds. can't wait for dramatic HS to be over!
i give up it won't let me post
It let you post that. lol
I know what you mean. One of my best friends is a guy and people say we're going out all the time. Really awkward because I sort of like him
Kind of in this situation. I have a friend who's a girl that I'm taking to prom. No romantic relationship. Just being her escort.
She wants a guy to take her but she doesn't have a bf. So, I'm taking her. :)
Wish I could tell him but don't want to ruin things between us :(
People suck. I talk to my guy friend everyday, because we've been besties since 6th grade. Like, I mean, we've both had crushes on each other, but we're definietly just friends, and every time I'm seen talking to him, people are like, "So what's your boyfriends name?" And I hate it, because then (my friend is really shy), he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day. It annoys me so much and I can't stand it. I wish people would just get that we're JUST friends. We were even nominated like, 'fairy tale couple'. And now he's so awkward.
That sucks :P. I feel your pain... people have this thing where whenever they see a guy talking to a girl, their mind automatically dings *couple.*