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Well, I usually don’t ask for advice, but I really think I need it now. So there is this guy, and my heart belongs to him, even after everything he put me through, all the fights, lies, pushing me around and trying to change me. But heartbreakingly we are not even talking right now, due to my broken heart. Well, we met my freshman year and we really hit it off. We became close friends, then my sophomore year we became even closer and he dropped a bombshell that he always had feelings for me, but at this time he had a girlfriend and he wouldn’t leave her for me. He kept telling me about how much he loved me, and how he wanted to be with me. But we got into constant fights and things got bad. Then we made up. Then we started talking, and then I found out he was talking to me and to 2 of my very close friends, and his back and forth girlfriend, telling them how much he loved them to. Me and this guy got into a huge fight about him playing me, and that was the end of sophomore year. Then when this year started he came to me and told me how sorry he was that he hurt me. We made up and became friends again. Soon I fell back into his ways and he started telling me how much he loved me again. Then soon after, with some persistent nudging of both his friends and mine he asked me out. It didn’t last long before he dumped me because he was having “problems” and didn’t want me in his life as a girlfriend. We were friends for a while, but soon found I couldn’t stand being around him and not being his so I told him I couldn’t do it anymore and we stopped talking. I still love everything about him, except our constant fighting and his stubborn attitude problems, but maybe I like that to. He knows everything about me, all the good and all the bad. He doesn’t even seem to care that were not talking anymore. I just need to know what I should do, my heart hurts so much, and there is no way I can avoid him. Just, I need some help, so if you read this and feel like giving me some advice I would greatly appreciate it.
Ask yourself one question: taking every part of your life, are you better off with or without him? I could tell you you're better off without him, but this is a question you must search for in yourself and no one else. Also, ask yourself why you want him. Is it because of your feelings for him, or is it something deeper? Are you insecure? What is it about your life that makes you feel like you need him?
If you choose to be rid of him completely, stick to your decision. And listening to "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" by Taylor Swift a few times isn't a bad idea.
thank you so much for your advice! i will do so, i apriciate you taking your time to read my story and help me! i can never thank you enough!!!
two thumbs way up for AmayaEcho, as a man having gone through similar problems in the past. I full heartidly applaud your advice. To which I would add this: and if you, Naomi, descide to call it quits permanently, then like the Taylor Swift song, NEVER EVER think about it. Otherwise you'll be like me who was trapped in the God-aweful cycle of break-ups-and-make-ups for all 4 years of HS. It ruined my High School experince and I am still making up for my dating life in college...really sad. Anyway Good luck
thank you so much for your advice :) ive had alot of relationship problems in the past and i guess that just makes me want to keep going back for him over and over eventhough he keeps breaking my heart... he doesnt beat me like some of the others so i dont know... and right now i am really missing him, he was a good person to talk to and im having alot of problems right now you know? ..... im sure youll find someone reallllly great, you seem like a extreamly nice person!!! :D once again thank you :D