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I've tried, I really have. But I don't know if I can do this.
Me and my younger sister used to be really close. Now she acts like I'm evil and says that I hate her. This summer I finally broke down and told her everything, how much everything hurt, reminded her that I have never said I hated her, yet she's said it dozens of times. I helped teach her how to read, I taught her how to ride a bike, I always stick up for her when she needs it, help her with her writing...But all she can see is the bad side of everything. She forgets everything good I've ever done for her. When we talked...She seemed to get it, she seemed to be sorry...But now she's using everything I said that day against me and twisting the words until they're unrecognizable as my own.
She's becoming more and more of a liar. Just a bit ago she elbowed me in the jaw and slapped my face hard enough to leave a mark, just because I took a stupid callendar. A little stack of PAPER. And then she tried to guilt me by lying, saying that I'd failed as a sister.
She's lazy. I have to drag her out of bed EVERY MORNING to feed the goats. Feeding them in the morning is her job. A lot of days she leaves them locked up without food until noon because she'd rather read or lay in bed than let them out. She won't do dishes unless our mom makes her, or there's a reward.
She always wants to be the center of attention, and acts like she's a princess and we should never make her help with any work. And then the next minute she's complaining that me and my brother get all the work at the neighbors and she has no money.
Anything I do is somehow wrong to her. I say it's her turn to do dishes and I'm lazy. I cut my hair and I look like a dork. I push her away so she can't hit me and I'm a bully. I eat the last bit of pudding and I'm a pig. I take a callendar and I'm a horrible person.
She's an unreasonable, ungrateful, lazy, lying, monster. I realy hate to say it, but it's true. I've spent my whole life loving her and trying to protect her, and what do I get for it? "You're the worst big sister ever, I hate you. You're always stealing and beating me up. You never listen and you don't care about anyone but yourself."
I want to fix it...But I don't think I can. I'm tired of trying and trying, and then being insulted by everyone because "I'm older and should be more mature than her." I just want my sister to be a sister, not an enemy.
Well you've said before that the last few years haven't been funf or your family, maybe this your sis's way of coping with it. It's a silly way of coping though, I think that you should try to ignore her when she's nasty, and maybe back away a bit. Let her have her space and leave her to her own devices now and then. Though don't let teh goats starve. Don't cover for her or try and protected her from everything. I don't know that's probably abd advice...
Um sorry for the not-so-good advice, you probably shouldn't do as I suggested. I was tired when I wrote above post so yeah....But seriously, ignore her words and such, she's just trying to get attention. She'll hopefully grow out of this.
When the bad years started, she didn't really know. Even now, I don't think she knows how bad things are. No one else is reacting like this, though my mom has been different...
I've tried backing away. But then she sees it as her "winning", and just gets worse. Or, even when I'm not saying a thing, and she's slapping me, my mom will come in and yell at us both. She's too stressed to actually try to figure things out.
*hugs* Thanks anyway. :)
Sorry I couldn't help more. :-( *Hugs back* If you need to vent come to this thread and I'll listen.
Couldn't you talk to your other siblings, see f they have any advice? I know you've said before that they aren't the type to vent too, but you could try and see if they know what to do. Maybe they have some ideas that would help. I'm not sure how that'd work out though...
I dont know if this will work, but try and secretly video tape the thinds she does to you then have her watch the video to see if maybe if she sees how much you love her and how baddly shes been treeting you maybe shell realize that what shes been doing is wrong and i don't know maybe that will help.
They always all say the same thing: You're both obnoxious, ignore her, etc.
I do have a video camera, but I never know when she's going to blow up, so hiding it would be a problem. And I can't just have it going all the time, it only records 30 minutes at a time before starting over, and I think it can only start over once.
And I'm pretty sure she knows it's wrong. She told me once that "it's just her personality", and she "can't help it".
Thanks anyway. You guys are awesome. :)