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A Hairy Tale MAG
Open your average Seventeen magazine and look at the ads. What are they selling? Razors. I find that perfectly acceptable; people shave and therefore need razors. There is something, however, that I’m not comfortable with: the message. Gillette Venus advertises that shaving your legs will help you release your “inner goddess.” Schick Quattro for Women says that shaving will free you. Nair has its own brand for women called Nair Pretty! What is this saying to the young women of America? They are being forced into an unnatural mold that is ruling their lives and ravaging girls’ self-esteem. What we eat, what we wear, how we act – it is all guided by the ultimate (virtually hairless) woman every man supposedly desires, and I have had enough.
Shaving is an American custom, and a foolish one at that. If we took the time to see the injustice in the social hierarchy our nation is built upon, perhaps we could understand beauty in a natural body. I realized how much time I wasted mutilating my body with a razor blade. How can people look positively on that? Whenever I shaved, I cut myself, which isn’t enjoyable. The constant stress of wondering Do I need to shave? is a nuisance. There was no reason for me to continue shaving if I didn’t want to.
So I stopped. The first day of summer, I put down the razor, thinking, Maybe I’ll just try this for a week. At that point it wasn’t even about the media’s incessant pressure, or rebellion against conventional thinking; I stopped purely for comfort. Even though my hair has grown, I realize how comfortable it has made me. It feels as though I’ve opened up a whole new part of my body I didn’t know I had. I feel closer to myself and more confident in my body. I wear tank tops and skirts; I’m proud of my body hair. I like to show it off, even for shock value. The choice is mine and I made it.
People talk about it, of course. I’ve lost friends because of it, which makes me realize that if someone is ignorant enough to worry about the state of my hair, I shouldn’t be associating with that person in the first place. It hurts to know that those I once valued and cared about are simply conforming clones, and it hurts to hear strangers, even small children, make rude comments about my body hair. I know my friends talk about it with their friends, saying, “She’s the girl with the armpit hair.”
Sometimes I feel like it’s going to prevent me from getting dates, with the way people react to it (mostly teenage boys, howling about how disgusting it is). One of my best friends told me that it was a bad choice. He said the fact that I didn’t shave made him angry, that my body hair made him angry. Needless to say, I don’t speak to him anymore.
Teenage girls judge me just as harshly. Another friend threatened, jokingly, to shave me in my sleep. I know there are girls reading this right now thinking, Shaving isn’t that hard. Stop whining and making such a big deal. Body hair is nasty! You were raised to think that way. In your home, on your television, in your bathtub, by your peers, they raised you to believe body hair is gross. I was raised that way too, but I broke through it.
My closest friend tells me that she considered not shaving under her arms, but she would never stop shaving her legs because she thinks she is too hairy. Nobody should judge you as too hairy. I want to scream, “Stop letting other people decide what you are and what you’re not!”
Acceptance is important to people, and yet I don’t understand how some can accept the biggest differences in people – sexual orientation, race, religion – yet find my disdain for shaving revolting and intolerable. You wouldn’t tell Jewish people that their yarmulkes are gross and that they should take them off, so why would you tell me that my body hair is vile and I should shave?
I question the fate of our generation. Think about it: if Miley Cyrus stopped shaving, adolescent girls all over the world would too. Most people will venture to say that they are different from everyone else, but they aren’t.
You can choose to focus on the physical aspect of what I’m doing, and you can point and laugh at my body hair. Or you can take the time to look deep into your beliefs about American culture and see that I have actually freed myself from corporate oppression. You can look down on me for being happy with the natural state of my body, or you can look up to me for thinking for myself and having the guts to say no to peer pressure. The choice is yours.
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It's really funny, a combination of reading your article and something my boyfriend tells me every now and then showed me you are absolutely right.
I am so self conscious about shaving, and i just happened to go a day without it and my boyfriend came over. I was thinking to myself that he would be grossed out and bla bla bla and he ran his hands um my leg, unknowing I hadn't shaved. I kinda cringed and he said," Um, I know you didn't shave today, and I'm okay with that. I think its ridiculous how society thinks girls need to be shave all the time. When really, we need to be focusing on the people they really are. Not appearances."
this was good. i dont know how you have the courage to do this. i wasnt aloud to shave until i was 13 and i would wear shorts to school and come home crying and then when i turned 13 i shaved and i felt so much better. i have one question have you gotten a boy friend while you havent been shaveing?
My dad was in the Army and he was stationed in Germany a couple of times and he told me that the women don't shave there. But that was in the 80's that he was there last, so it has probably changed there, too. Also, I did some research and found out that the reason women started shaving their legs and underarms is to reduce the fleas and lice. (Two less places for them to infest, right?) Plus, I only shave when I wear shorts or dresses. I think it's stupid to shave a body part when it dosen't show.
(Except for armpits. I get zits there if I don't. Too much moisture.)
Great article, BTW!
=) I loved it.
Seriously, you are so right goddammit! I am with you, haha. Look I live in Spain (Europe) and even though many Americans think Europeans dont ever shave... ¬¬ Spaniards do ok? I do! But because I want to. I hate going to LA to visit my cousins and hearing stupid guys making comments like: OOOh, spanish girls are so sexy and exotic if you dont mind armpit hair! And girls laugh at me. =)
My cousins tell me to tell them that I DO shave, but I actually dont shave in America just to bug people. I shave in Spain cuz I like shaving. I dont like the way I look with armpit hair, honestly. But no one has the right to tell me what I should and shouldnt do, ever! =)
I would never judge you on your decision. On the contrary, I would probably admire you if we ever met.
If you want to chat anytime, please add or message me! ^^ That goes for anyone who reads this 2!!! xoxo, Alex.
This is a great story... you really need to keep writing!
I was in a situation last year (6th grade age 12) where I would not wear shorts. All of my friends shaved and I always saw those ads on TV that made me feel like you were not beautiful unless you shaved. I still have not shaved- I use Smooth Away only on my legs.
And I think my friend is a great example because she is a swimmer and has never shaved or removed any hair on her body and she is perfectly comfortable wearing shorts. Who cares what people say!