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Am I Myself?

May 19, 2015
By August17 BRONZE, Gloucester, Other
August17 BRONZE, Gloucester, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"In the game of throne, you win, or you die. There is no middle ground." -Petyr Baelish


It would not be a mistake were I to state that many youngsters are attempting to find themselves. It has always been a part of teenage lives - defining who you truly are. For one it might come with an ease, whilst for the others it is highly probable to have numerous difficulties. As a juvenile, is one obliged to modify our behaviour in order to satisfy a third party? Do we have to opt for a drastic adjustment? Is such an abrupt change even possible, and, if so, would it be beneficial for us, teenagers?

One would state that it is vital to alter teenagers, as one day we shall be the older generation. However, we are people, and we do have our dissimilarities. We cannot lose ourselves, who we really are. In the medieval times, people would often adjust themselves, in order to fit in the horde. We are able to see the results nowadays. Suffering, lost of interest in science, famine- that are only the most commonly known results of that. It is widely acknowledged that we- as human beings- are eager to alter our behaviour in order to match the others. In my belief, it is one of the biggest flaws of our kind. Forgetting our identity is as if one would agitate our mind. I presume that pleasing somebody is not of such a great importance as being the true yourself.

Is a change in being possible? If we alter our behaviour, would it still be the same person? As a human can be defined by these assets: opinions on a facet, behaviour and habits. Adjusting ourselves might end up in becoming somebody else. Having a role model is important. Yet, you should not try to develop into them. We are who we are. There is no need for a change. Attempt to be the better version of yourself. Nurture your assets, neglect your flaws. Meaning features you consider as flaws and assets, not your friends, nor relatives. They can and should help you, however, only to find these. You need to define them yourself.

Adjusting can be seen among teenagers. We do have the tendency to change our habits, behaviour, opinions, believes, appearance. And the only reason seems to be ‘friends.’ One would said that ‘friends’ would not like them were they to expose the true identity of theirs. Altering one’s way of dressing, or make-up might have a good outcome. Whilst modifying behaviour is most certainly a change for no good. We only have to understand that, in a case like this, the people you are acquaintances with are not your friends. Should they would rather you changed, it is strongly advised to leave them, as there will be no beneficial impact on you. It may even cause depression, as hiding who you really are might be too hard to handle with. Moreover, even if you would stop being friends with them and be the real you, finding new mates would not be as hard as it seems to be.

In conclusion, I do not presume changing your ways of being is an asset. Nor is adjusting. Although attempting to become the best version of yourself is hard in every way possible. Yet, when one accomplishes this challenge, they will not have remorse, as the capability to accept yourself is uncommon. You are who you are. You have to live with the person you will become.


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